Recognizing Your Type of Man that Brings You Happiness
There are some moments in life when we slip into “muddy waters” and nothing is clear for us, nothing can bring that feeling of recognition and grounding which moves us forward. Thoughts are flying through the head: they bring more thoughts and more directions in which to move. It is like an improvised brainstorm, a mental translation of events happening inside us. We can brainstorm about anything that is important to us at any moment.
When we desire to find relationships in life, they show up as a mental, physical and emotional translation of relations between our Inner Woman and our Inner Man. I’d like to expand on a particular side of relationships: a struggle with choosing the “wrong” man in life.
Looking back on human history of relationships, there is a conflict between men and women: there is a struggle between choice and rejection, winning and losing, or taking the best “trophy” even if it doesn’t feel fulfilling.
Yes, this crazy society game brought humankind to a drama of the broken heart. Quite literally, broken heart which stopped working and stopped giving us clarity and divine knowledge of who we are.
Once we have reached the divine depth of whole heart recognition, we can finally realize that the man we choose in our life does not always reflect the Inner Man that we have always known.
Our chosen man can reflect an image of anyone from our childhood who we connect with a feeling of love. It can be an image of a father, or of any other man who was close to us when we were children. That image remained inside of me – and now my Inner Woman is confused. She feels she must choose, and at the same time she knows that there is nothing to choose. She knows who her man is and she doesn’t want to play the game of society madness.
Being involved in this game of choosing between you and not you, she forgot to reflect the essence of her Inner Man, and accepted the “wrong” guy. This brought a lot of drama into her life. She lost her divine state of happiness, joy, ease, flow, and unfoldment.
To remember and reclaim your divine connection between Inner Woman and Inner Man you can begin from the place where you are now. In my practice I like to use any recording or book on relationships and apply everything I hear or read to my Inner relationships, where the feminine aspect is a “being” aspect of my personality and the masculine aspect is a “doer”.
If, while looking inside, I recognize any familiar characteristic of any person from my life (lives) that made an imprint on my divine Inner Woman or Man, I make my conscious choice to keep it if it works for me, or let it go if doesn’t. By following through this discernment I clear my Inner Woman and Man and relations between them. I take the more developed – more active – current of this two-string flow and balance it by opposing my vision of “ideal” interaction between woman and man onto what I recognize inside.
To get a taste of this practice you can use any of your favorite relational recordings or books. Or to begin with, go to the YouTube video “Why Do I Keep Dating Losers”? by Teal Swan, and see what you find inside.
Don’t forget about having fun. On the big scale, this is what it’s all about.
As usual, I’d like to hear about your fun. You can post it on Relationship from Inside Out Facebook page, or on the Blog Page on my website irynaeysmont.wix.com/sedonaselfretreat
Iryna is a curious being exploring this Creation and drawing her picture of what and how she chooses to be from all possibilities of the Creation. She is an ATIH teacher and developer her own retreats/workshops Emotional Healing. She lives in Sedona and looking forward to meet like minded people to share her interest in balanced life in Sedona Study Group. As ATIH teacher she is looking forward to connect with other teachers to give workshops together. Through her experience of teaching with Victor Powers she found that workshops presented by both male and female give tremendous access to the Heart and expansion. You can reach her at or visit her website irynaeysmont.wix.com/sedonaselfretreat