About Men

(From our Female Readers)

Well you asked for it!!!! I'm a single parent (46yo) with two young men 14 and 12, so my observations are the result of my experiences with age-mature men (including ex-partners) and younger men I have met at work or schools.

Now, and also for context, I live in a so called 'civilized' society (Australia) and not where most large populations live i.e.: Africa, India, Asia etc where I believe it is still incredibly abusive for females and children.

On young men (and there's nothing new here)

violence against young men and women is increasing NOT decreasing.
young men have little connection with younger children or babies and appear unable to understand the needs of another human being (ie young parents who bash, maim and injure their own babies often blaming tiredness or lack of patience)
young men lack suitable mentors, as the absent father syndrome is endemic. Even when there is a resident male, they still leave the majority of the parenting interaction to mothers or female others.
primary motivations for young men revolve around... sex, access to food and being able to control others (bullying)or commit gratuitous acts of violence or vandalism
general lack of respect for feminine principles and strengths, either as misogynistic or homophobic responses which are also propagated and supported by older males and peer groups

On older men:

fixation with youth and remaining youthful via sexual affairs to mid life crisis behaviors (fear of death and emotional immaturity)
older men defend or promote the behaviors of younger men for example how often do people say 'boys will be boys'
our legal systems (male dominated) still does not protect women and children, even after centuries of abuse. Just ask any rape victim.
prolific pornographic material which create 'porn victims' who have no idea about the 'real' female sexual response and can not maintain female friendships let alone romantic relationships.
no social skills or ability to live independently hence "mail order brides" or other quick fix relationships.
over emphasis in our news/TV on sport or war or other combative activities (what is that wrestling stuff about ???) which are all programming decisions made by male dominated interests. Try watching the nightly news anywhere, 90% of material is in this category.

Mars and Venus??

I say get real and that this planet is facing the most important crisis ever... not global warming, not war in Iraq, not use of nuclear power or not even increasing infertility... its about helping our young people balance their energies so that the healthy male and female can prevail and Earth can evolve with LOVE.

I work hard to keep my sons respectful of women, but they are bombarded by conflicting messages from their own father, older males and peer teenagers, TV, computers, music etc.

I know this message sounds negative, that's because the situation is NEGATIVE, BUT MY COMMENTS ARE plain HONEST NOT OF JUDGEMENT. Check your jail and hospital statistics etc.

To wrap up and hug all those of you who work with me on this material... we need to have a stronger VOICE.

Love all ways, Mella

I have the feeling, that my partner does not want change as much as I think he should.

He is standing in one place and he cannot move forward. I have the feeling that he is trying to keep me with him. He can't give me support me in the way I want to develop. When we are not thinking the same, he tells me how bad I am, how the things I do are not OK and that I have to wait.

When we met each other he was so glad for me and my way of thinking. Now he gets angry with me when I try to take a new step. He is obsessed with sex.

I have the feeling sometimes, that he goes so deep and so low and that he wants me to go to these places with him. In these moments I resist and we fight.

Josie from Slovenia

As I live in France, this is about French men. I am French and returned from the States to live in France in 1986. Since then I have met may be a hundred men from different backgrounds. My feelings have ranged from dismay to disgust to outrage and finally I have given up on finding a mate in this country. Immature, self centered, materialistic and ready to take advantage of any female coming their way.... sorry to sound so negative.

As for women, many of them are just great, responsible, good looking, extremely active and efficient, mature...As a French woman I am ashamed of French men.