RELATIONSHIP AND THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

By Jill Rose

I was single for years. I felt like I might never enter into another meaningful relationship yet there was one thing that gave me hope.

When I was 25 I spoke with a highly sought after psychic. It took a month to get an appointment with her as she was very busy. I really wanted to be in a relationship at the time and was anxious to find out what was on the horizon. She told me that I wouldn't meet my husband until I was 32 and that he would be from the east coast. I was relieved I would someday be married but very distraught I would have to wait so long. But this did give me hope.

Eight years later at the age of 33 I was still single. My 94 year old grandfather once said to me, "you're not getting any younger." My mother looked at me with sad eyes. But I was finally content with the way things were. It took a lot of soul searching, but I was finally in love with me. The only thing that really bothered me was when people felt sorry for me. I would try to let them know I was happy, but social conditioning strongly suggests that I should have been married.

I read a book that said you should sit down and list every quality you want to attract in a partner. So I sat down and made out a very long list. With probably forty or fifty qualities I couldn't live with or without. It seems along with age one can get very particular. I even wrote down things like "he can't be the kind of person that watches a lot of sports" and "he must be spiritual."

One afternoon I got an email from Diane Cooper regarding the "Sacred Geometry" conference in Sedona, Arizona. I went back and forth many times wondering if I should attend. There wasn't a clear answer that came to me. Some of the subjects seemed interesting and I looked forward to seeing Drunvalo again but in all honesty, it was more a financial issue that blocked me. Finally one morning I woke up and without hesitation I went online and signed up for the conference.

It's a long drive from Newport Beach, CA to Sedona, Arizona. I listened to a book on tape that said you can manifest anything you want based on the law of attraction. After hours of driving on a very long straight road and probably many sad love songs later, I fell into deep sadness about being single. I decided to take matters into my own hands and thought this thought, "I WILL meet my husband at this conference." And I thought this over and over again with great determination. It feels strange to actually admit this.

When I arrived late for the conference the first morning there were only two seats still available. The first one I tried was taken, so I moved to the second one. Sitting next to me were Stuart and Tim. Sitting on my other side was a man I'll call Joe. Joe had very bad breath and felt inclined to lean as close to me as possible. And to make matters worse, he invited me to lunch very early on. So when the announcer asked everyone to reach out and go to lunch with at least five people I was relieved to ask Stuart and Tim to join us. I quickly found a lot in common with Tim and Stuart. They said they were from Charlottesville, Virginia and I immediately thought, that sounds like a nice place to live.

Other than a wonderful friendship I didn't think in terms of romance with Tim. Although he was single and we had everything in common, it wasn't love at first sight. He had traveled to India several times and I had always wanted to go. So before we parted we exchanged emails and I asked if he were to ever go to India again, please consider emailing me. After a few blissful days at the conference, I returned home thinking that the universe hadn't answered my call for a husband at the conference.

My mother made a very temporary friend while getting her nails done one day. Her name was Cheryl. My mom thought we would get along well, so she gave Cheryl my email. We met only once when I told her about my trip to Sedona. She looked at me and said, "I have a very strong feeling about Tim. You are meant to be with Tim." I very much questioned her but her utter passion inspired me to email Tim that day.

We exchanged many wonderful emails and I began to wonder if this might actually lead to something. My mind was spinning. Wasn't I supposed to just "know?" So I went on a walk and asked the universe to give me a sign. I very much believe the universe speaks to us if we only pay attention. I asked if I could get a sign one way or another regarding my relationship with Tim. And the craziest thing happened. I'm not a bird watcher and would have no idea what doves look like up close. So when two doves flew right past me, it wouldn't have meant much to me. But there happened to be a bird watcher standing right there and he said, "That is a great omen! Two doves just flew right past you."

Months later, Tim and I were traveling in India. A year after that I moved to the east coast and we were engaged (the psychic was off only by my exact age). This past September when Stuart was giving a toast at our wedding he said, "I thought it was humorous how the universe put a person with halitosis next to Jill to MAKE SURE she introduced herself to the guy sitting next to her." Of course, that person was Tim.

I am very happy being in a relationship but I feel I only got there when I was very content not being in one (although I did have my moments). What blows my mind about this whole experience was how helpful the universe was in making it happen. And by the way, Tim doesn't watch a lot of sports and he is very spiritual. He is everything I asked for!